Thank You Staff and Sponsors! (Apr-May 2017)

This month, we want to give thanks and acknowledging all of our volunteer staff and sponsors from the months of April and May! They are all out there making a difference in the lives of those around them as well as their own. They have given each of the people they have sponsored another chance to create more of what they want in life. Each time we sponsor we too get something out of it. Whether it is to have those we love share the same tools, or get the support to hold us accountable and brainstorm with us on our dreams. Sponsoring is as much a gift to ourselves as it is to those around us. When we sponsor those at work we create a stronger team to attack the goals we have. So THANK YOU to the Sponsors for your love and commitment to a better life and better world.

Sponsors:

Cella Janisch-Hartline (8), Jamie Gibbs (6), Greg Barone (5), Laurie Barone (5), Larissa Barone (4), Cathy Maday (3), Sarah Durbin (2), Jackie Endres (2), Heather Schmidt (2), Courtney Weidner (2), Kathy Williams (2), Nelsi Ayala (2), David Cathey (2), Daniel Giudice (2), Matt Hubert (2), Tina Hubert (2), Kate Leth, Alice Nixon, Laureen Segall, Thomas Binder, Gretchen David, Krystale Hammond, Storme Hannan, Mike Johnson, Lakshmi Rengarajan, Kandie Worden, Luz Maria Arroyo, Frank Dombrowski, Hayley Dombrowski, Joshua Hastings, Jody Heyman, Sarah Homman

We also want to THANK our amazing staffs! We have Basic staff from both Chicago and Texas, as well as an Advanced staff. Thank you for being there in service to the new students that have come through the seminars. Great work everyone! These seminars are blessed with those that each sponsor sends through. Each person that attends a class is great support to everyone is the class, especially our staff. And each staff person is a great support to each student in the room. As we each realize that we are there to learn from each other! The sharing that happens in a class impacts everyone in that room. And it would not be the same without the dedication and hard work of the staff. We truly appreciate all your love and support!

Staff:

Michael Collins, Jeff Giambrone, Ryan Hutmacher, Jason Rogers, Anora O’Connor, Tyler Bloom, Bridget Backe, Jackie Endres, Courtney Weidner, Peter Hauschildt, Gretchen David, Rodger Sawyer, Kathleen Nau, Greg Barone, Dani Ederi, Jon Jones, Chris Oller, Heather Schmidt, Laurie Barone, Steve Benson, Dawn Mathis, Krystale Hammond, Wendy Mitchell, Derek Cahill, Dyan Roppolo, Liesl Christle, Angel Giammarino, Lynne Yura, Tim Arnold, Corinne Cahill, Judy Giudice, Sarah Homman, Patrick O’Connor, Nelsi Ayala, Jim Christle, Frank Dombrowski, Hayley Dombrowski, Daniel Giudice, Cella Janisch-Hartline, Melinda Johnson, Brandon Medrano, Sandra Medrano, Tony Pusateri

Thank You, Staff and Sponsors! (Jan-Mar 2017)

This month, we want to give thanks and acknowledging all of our volunteer staff and sponsors from the months of January, February, and March! They are all out there making a difference in the lives of those around them as well as their own. They have given each of the people they have sponsored another chance to create more of what they want in life. Each time we sponsor we too get something out of it. Whether it is to have those we love share the same tools, or get the support to hold us accountable and brainstorm with us on our dreams. Sponsoring is as much a gift to ourselves as it is to those around us. When we sponsor those at work we create a stronger team to attack the goals we have. So THANK YOU to the Sponsors for your love and commitment to a better life and better world.

Sponsors:

Terin Izil (6), Brian Carter (5), Nicole Unger (5), Dana Dwyer (3), Heather Schmidt (3), Isabel Loureiro-Ferreira (3), Maura Geils (3), Alice Nixon (2), Bruce Bloom (2), Julie Jones (2), Liz Naquin-Borger (2), Rhonda Humphries (2), Steve Obregon (2), Aaron Smith, Anne Duffy, Bill McMillin, Bob Schmidt, Brianna Dewey-Clark, Cathy Maday, Chan Hemintranont, Chris Bruzzini, Chris Pemble, Craig Gonder, Dave Borkowski, Dave Gimbel, David Scahill, Dawn Breen, Elena Carlson, Erin Kraut, Frank Dombrowski, Jackie Endres, Jamie Gibbs, Jeff Giambrone, Jenn Pearson, Jesse Domanski, Joe Parra, John Borkowski, John Oldenburg, Julie McFadden, Karen Kopan, Ken Olesen, Kerri Zeil, Laura Messner, Lori Higbie-McAndrew, Lynne Yura, Marc Peter, Marcee Albertario, Marlo Corletto, Matt McMillin, Monica Parra, Morgan Kraut, Olivia Jones, Patrick McFadden, Patrick O’Connor, Pauline Gimbel, Rae Livingston, Rob Geils, Rob Luciano, Robb Mann, Shae Loria, Susan Schmitt, Susie Berman, Vanessa Payne

We also want to THANK our amazing staffs! We have Basic staff from both Chicago and New Jersey, as well as an Advanced staff. Thank you for being there in service to the new students that have come through the seminars. Great work everyone! These seminars are blessed with those that each sponsor sends through. Each person that attends a class is great support to everyone is the class, especially our staff. And each staff person is a great support to each student in the room. As we each realize that we are there to learn from each other! The sharing that happens in a class impacts everyone in that room. And it would not be the same without the dedication and hard work of the staff. We truly appreciate all your love and support!

Staff:

Aaron Smith, Amy Brannan, Amy Monico, Angel Giammarino, Anthony Borges, Becky Hoover, Brian Carter, Brianna Clark, Carrie Todd, Cheri Silver, Cheryl Harris, Chris Bruzzini, Chris Perez, Cori-Ann Roublick, Dana Dwyer, Danielle Peters, Danny Saraiva, Dawn Rogers, Dawn Breen, Debra Pedigo,Derek Cahill, Derek Ericson, Donna Cross, Frank Dombrowski, Ginny Rogers, Heather Schmidt, Holly Higginbotham, Isabel Loureiro-Ferreira, Jackie Endres, Jacqueline Gargiulo, Jamie Gibbs, Jason Rogers, Jenn Pearson, Jesse Domanski, Jordan Cross, Julie Jones, Karen Kopan, Katelyn Foster, Kathleen DeLise, Ken Shane, Kevin Dorfsman, Lara Rousseau, Laura Messner, Laureen Segall, Linda Abrams, Liz Ladewig, Lori McAndrew, Luci Semilia, Lynne Yura, Manny Marques, Marlo Corletto, Maura Geils, Michael Livingston, Michael Collins, Michelle Gansle, Mike Cahill, Mike Richer, Nicole Saubert, Patrick McFadden, Rob Geils, Rob Luciano, Ryan Foster, Steve Duberchin, Steve Brodson, Terin Izil, Tyler Bloom

“On Waiting” by grad Amy Wright

April showers bring May flowers, they say. The rain comes, and after a while, the flowers lift their sleepy heads, give a satisfied yawn and stretch toward the sun. The axiom implies that it rains for a month – thirty whole days of cloudy and dark, of wet and mud, of crushing barometric pressure, of cabin fever, of hydroplaning.

Today, I am thinking about how well I personally weather storms of uncertainty. How good am I really at waiting in the space between knowing what I want and finding out if am able to be it, do it or have it? How gracefully do I accept things that are outside my control?

What happens for you when you’re waiting? What do you notice about your physical body? What do you feel? What kinds of choices do you make? How do you treat yourself and the people around you?

Honestly? My steps are usually sure. I am often bold and rooted in the words of my contract: powerful, intimate, committed and limitless. I step confidently into crucial conversations and trust myself in my vulnerability. I believe in my ability to create the kinds of relationships I want to have and affect the changes I want to see in my life. It’s my nature to be patient with myself and gracious, and when I am gentle with myself, it is easier to be gentle with others. I’m in the flow. Things feel easy.

But, what about when I’m not, you ask? Well. When I am not sure of things, I am restless. I am impatient. I allow myself to become increasingly anxious and depressed. I take care of myself with less love and attentiveness – I numb out, I don’t get enough sleep, I make food choices that don’t support my need for nutrition and energy, I am self-critical and, effectively, snappy with co-workers and friends.

And, then sure enough, the wait is over. I either have what I set out to have and the worry was for nothing, or I don’t, and I can make different choices or a new plan… and the worry was for nothing. Either way, the season of uncertainty is over.

So, let’s talk about some of the things we can do to take better care of ourselves while we wait.

Have a plan

Have a plan made up of SMART goals (specific, measurable, action-oriented, realistic, time-bound) to keep you focused. To combat my restlessness, I need to know it’s just a matter of time between action steps; having measurable goals supports me in seeing empirically how far I’ve come. It may be a ways before I get where I want to be, but I’m not where I started. My vision about what I want is always supported by my goals and action steps, so if I find I’m not getting where I want to be, I can tweak and revise until I am.

Have support

A strong support system is mission critical for me. I need people around me who love me wildly, and to me that looks like celebrating victories together, being a hand up when I feel defeated, listening, encouraging, challenging and holding me accountable. They remind me how to be gentle with me, when I am being too hard on myself. Consider adding professionals to your support system – a doctor who knows when pharmaceutical intervention may be appropriate, a therapist who is dedicated to hearing you and asking tough questions to keep you moving forward, a spiritual advisor who can support you in a crisis of purpose. The people in my support network never let me quit on myself, because what’s important to me is important to them, and they can be an ear when I want to talk about how impatient or restless I’m growing and nudge me toward something more productive.

Be intentional

I know how easy it is to fall back into unhealthy patterns of behavior when I feel like I’m stalling out. So, it’s even more important to me to make choices directly in opposition to those behaviors. For example, I start becoming anxious, which impacts my sleep. I’ve begun meditating and taking a children’s melatonin before bed, and it helps calm my mind and get the rest I need to do my life well. I know that when I am feeling stressed out, I don’t make the best food choices. I go for convenience over nutrition. So, in this particular season of waiting that I’m in, I have literally plotted out a six week menu with a corresponding grocery list so that my family and I are taken care of. Be prepared. Equip yourself with what you need to get through this time – it’s a rainy season; if we leave home without an umbrella, we’re asking to get soaked.
Allow yourself to notice and experience whatever uncomfortable feelings you may have while you wait, without trying to turn them into something else. Be aware of what your numbing out tendencies are – drinking to excess, TV, gaming, getting lost in your phone, drugs, unhealthy sexual choices, spending too much money, shutting down emotionally, over or under eating… whatever it is for you – be aware of the uncomfortable feeling that triggered that habitual response and give yourself the opportunity to make a different choice, because you are important.
Being present for your life matters – you don’t want to miss the good stuff.

K.I.S.S.

While I may be the world’s biggest proponent of kissing, in this case, I mean “keep it simple, silly.” When life feels hard and uncertain, let’s not heap more on our plates. Waiting to see if an offer is accepted on a house? Waiting to see if you’re accepted into a college? Waiting to see if a person will make a choice to enter into, stay in or leave a relationship? Waiting on some medical test results? Waiting to hear if you will be transferred or promoted at work? Maybe don’t take on three new projects at that moment. I totally understand the desire to keep your hands and your brain occupied, but it’s also distracting. In some ways, it’s numbing out. Create space to rest while you wait. Waiting is not the same thing as resting. Do what fills you up – snuggle your partner, love on your kids, write, paint, sing, dance, go out for dinner or see a movie, grab a game with a friend, read, exercise, meditate. When you’re standing at the base of a mountain to move or looking up at an elephant to eat, don’t go do something else because it feels easier. The only way through seasons of waiting is through, but we can do it gracefully, gently, lovingly.

I believe in seasons and in being present. The rain you experience today, will give way to flowers. …maybe not in thirty days, maybe not exactly how we expected them to show up when you first planted them, but there will be flowers. Things will be different soon enough. If we show up for our lives and lean into dark seasons instead of doing whatever we can to avoid the discomfort, uncertainty and fear these seasons bring, we will be doing important work and learning a thing or two about ourselves. Make a plan; make plan B if you need to. Be honest. Talk to your people. Let them in, let what you feel out, and let your people carry you when you can’t get your footing. Be intentional and mindful about the choices you make while in the uncomfortable season of waiting. And, keep it simple – if it’s raining, don’t start planning your next picnic. Get to work, trusting you can handle this rainy season, because you’ve packed your umbrella.

Join Sue at a screening of “Dream, Girl”

On Tuesday, March 21, Sue will be participating on a local panel of female entrepreneurs at Cutting Hall Center for the Performing Arts in Palatine. If you’re available to come and support this event, please order tickets at the link below and bring some friends.

Martha Conlon, a recent Advanced grad, is sponsoring a screening of Dream, Girl, a documentary about inspirational female entrepreneurs on Tuesday, March 21 at 7:30 p.m. Sue is showing her support by participating in a Q&A panel of local female entrepreneurs that will take place shortly after the film.

Sue plans on talking about her experiences as a female entrepreneur starting Pathways, as well as her story as a sexual abuse survivor. Below is an email from Martha to her friends and acquaintances that includes all the details and links for tickets. She also has a group page for the screening on Facebook.

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To my friends and family,

A few months ago, I was so excited when I heard about Dream, Girl, a documentary about female entrepreneurs, that I rented a local theater and sponsored a screening to bring it to the Chicago suburbs. I know – kind of crazy, but that’s the thing I like most about it.

The screening will take place in Palatine on Tuesday, March 21 at 7:30 p.m. and I hope you can make it.

Going through my five-year divorce (which was final in July 2016) taught me a lot and I am forever changed. It taught me how strong I can be, but more importantly, it taught me how much I truly needed support from other people to get through it.

I am eternally grateful to my friends and family who supported me through this and would like to pay it forward by taking a stand for women by making this screening a raging success. The theater holds 400 people and my goal is to fill it!

With the current political climate, it is absolutely critical that we support each other and inspire women and girls to see their true potential as leaders and act on it.

Please post information about this screening to social media and forward it to anyone you think would be interested. You can forward the posts from my personal Facebook page and I can also provide more information.

Click the links to the video below to find out more. There’s also a link to buy tickets online.

Love to you all!

– Martha

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About the Dream, Girl Documentary

Dream, Girl, which screened at the White House ahead of The United State of Women summit, offers an inspiring look at what it takes to make it in the business world as a woman.

The film will be followed by a panel discussion with local female entrepreneurs. All proceeds will be donated to the Dream, Girl Fund: For Women’s Media and Entrepreneurship.

Click here to watch the official trailer

Join us Tuesday, March 21 at 7:30 p.m.
Cutting Hall Center for the Performing Arts
150 East Wood Street Palatine, IL
Tickets $10
Box Office – 847-202-5222
Click here to order tickets online

Be the change…

At this time of year, it is great to take a step back and reflect on our year, and see how we have been able to make an impact on those around us. Have we stepped outside of our comfort zones in order to create the kind of world we want to live in? Maybe we want to make an even greater impact next year. Below, we have a story from grad Nicole Unger about what she has done recently to step up and make a change in her workplace. What can you do to make your workplace or home a more loving, caring environment? Let her story inspire you to make 2017 your greatest year yet!

“One of my goals was about work and the negativity in the past year. I spoke up at a nurses meeting and read what I have copied below. They loved it so much that they wanted me to read it at a department meeting, which I had planned on anyway. And they all loved it so much they asked me to send it out, which led to the CNO who loved it and sent it to the CEO…. I also copied just a few of the responses I’ve received thus far. My thoughts were “be the change I wish to see”, that it would be contagious. I can not change others but it all starts with me. And so far it appears as though most were feeling the same way, just didn’t speak up about it. Which is hard to do, I understand. It was hard to do for me, but I did it anyway. And now look. I has spread and grown. It has created a conversation and awareness of the department, and really the whole organization. I have inspired and so I wanted to share with you what one leap of courage can create. Endless possibilities.

Since Advanced I have grown this enormous sense of trust. Trust in myself and the universe. It feels amazing and light and wonderful.

THE LETTER I READ TO COWORKERS-

****Hello All! I had shared something in our recent charge nurse meeting and the acute care meeting. Since not all of you were there I would like to share it with you all here!

I’ve really noticed lately how much complaining and gossiping floats around acute care. Its been going on a good year now, since a lot of changes starting happening, and now its just a daily occurrence. When I see this I take it to mean a few different things. First that this is just a job and it is not being taken seriously. That I may be gossiped about as well, and that there is not enough integrity or courage to stop the gossip or confront an issue or a person. I’ve been ignoring it and avoiding it. I don’t speak my mind when I am in this kind of situation which shows my lack of integrity and courage. What I want to have is the strength to say what I want to say. To have a unit that is close, responsible, open and caring. A unit that solves problems instead of creating negativity. I am committed to stop ignoring the gossip and avoiding the negativity. To speaking up when I do see or hear it, and to asking for support with this. What I most want you to know is that I am committed to this because I value myself, my career and each and every one of you!

Thank you!****

SOME OF THEIR RESPONSES-
Nicole,
Thanks for speaking up. I agree the negativity and gossip have been very prominent lately. I think we all, myself included, could do a better job of lifting each other up and focusing on the positive aspects of our unit. I’ve been trying to work on it and your email was a great reminder to keep it up!
Thanks,
Jamie

Wow Nicole this email is very compelling… I hope that this can encourage others to find the strength to feel the same way. I also think this is so valid on every unit. Thank You so much for all that you do. Hopefully others start thinking the same way
Mandie

I love you Nicole!!! What a great message. Well written!!
I would love to use team steps with you to help stop the negativity.
Susie

With Peace and Love,
Nicole”

Don’t forget to add Better World to your holiday shopping list!

Dear Pathways Grads,

It’s hard to believe that another year has come and gone and the holidays are just around the corner. As 2016 comes to a close, please take a few minutes to reflect on what you have created since attending your Pathways seminars.

Have your relationships with your family and friends grown deeper and more meaningful?

Are you stepping out of your comfort zone and living more fulfilled each day?

Were you able to make your dreams a reality and create the life you envisioned?

Our hope is that the Pathways seminars have truly impacted your life in a positive way, helping you create more of what you want. Thanks to Sue and Jeff Paige, all the grads who facilitate and staff, and the amazing sponsors who encourage and offer new students the opportunity to attend the seminars, Pathways to Successful Living has helped change the lives of more than 40,000 people.

Our work is not done. At each and every celebration, we hold hands and listen to Imagine as Sue talks about the importance of continuing this work in order to provide a better world for our children and future generations. Pathways to a Better World is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. Donations made to Better World help fund the Jeffrey B Paige Scholarship fund as well as special projects and other support to keep the seminars running to assist as many people as possible for years to come. The Jeffrey B Paige Scholarship fund was set up to assist future students with financial need so that they can receive assistance to attend the Basic and Advanced Seminars.

The gift of sponsoring transforms the person who sponsors, the student attending the seminar and everyone in that student’s life. Financial issues are one of the reasons that people don’t attend the seminars. Please consider making a tax deductible year-end gift right now by mailing a check (made out to Pathways to a Better World) to 318 Half Day Road, #319, Buffalo Grove, IL 60089, or by clicking HERE. Many companies will match your contribution, so please consider checking with them as well.

You can also help support us when you purchase anything from Amazon. By purchasing on Amazon Smile, Amazon will donate a small percentage to Pathways To A Better World on all your purchases. Go to smile.amazon.com and set your charity/organization as Pathways To A Better World, or just click on this link and save the page so that you have it anytime you make an Amazon purchase.

Your donation makes a statement of your commitment to yourself, your relationships and the future of the Pathways seminars.
We are grateful for your generous support, which has a rippling effect from Chicago to New Jersey, Chattanooga, Houston – all over the country and the world. Each person who attends our seminars touches many other lives which creates a Better World, one individual at a time. With commitments like yours, we will have the ability to continue to touch the lives of many others thus paying it forward

Thank you for your support. Best wishes to you and yours as you end this year and begin 2017 renewed.

Sincerely,
The Board of Directors for Pathways to a Better World
Iggy, Robert, Tree, April, Laura and Lynne

Thank you, October & November Staff and Sponsors!

This month, we are acknowledging the hard work of our volunteer staff and sponsors from the month of October and November! We have Basic staff from both Chicago and New Jersey, as well as an Advanced staff. Great work everyone! These seminars would not have been the same without your dedication and hard work. We truly appreciate all your love and support!

Sponsors

Steve Obregon (3)
Barbara Truglio (2)
Carol Crescimanno (2)
Diana Stewart-Crager (2)
Donna Cross (2)
Sarah Homman (2)
Troy Hardeman (2)
Alice Nixon
Annette Queyquep
Anora O’Connor
Anthony Borges
Anthony Grambo
Claudia Moreno
Cori-Ann Roublick
Corinne Cahill
Danny Saraiva
Darren Capra
Erin Hempel
Isabel Ferreira
Katherine Philis
Marty Scaminaci
Michael Cross
Miguel Costa
Pat O’Sullivan
Stephanie Kelly
Steve Obregon
Sue Paige

Staff
Anthony Borges
Anthony Grambo
Barbara Truglio
Becky Hoover
Becky Paige
Brian Carter
Bridget Backe
Bruce Bloom
ChrisAnn Stachowiak
Chuck DeLise
Cori-Ann Roublick
Corinne Cahill
Dan Zinna
Danny Saraiva
Derek Cahill
Derek Ericson
Donna Cross
Jackie Endres
Janelle Allen
Jason Rogers
Jeff Giambrone
Jesse Domanski
Jessica Gutierrez
Joey Dilag
Kate Hutmacher
Kathleen DeLise
Lauren Sandoval
Lori McAndrew
Michael Collins
Michelle Gansle
Mike Richer
Nicole Unger
Quadir Morton
Sarah Homman
Stephanie Stanton
Steve Duberchin
Steve Obregon
Teri Dudek
Terin Izil
Tim Arnold
Tony Pusateri
Troy Hardeman

What kind of impact are you creating post-election?

Many people in the Pathways family have been feeling a range of different emotions since the election: unsure, excited, fearful, hopeful. We may be feeling divided and disconnected. Yet, we know through our experience in the seminars that we are all people who want the same things: to feel loved and happy. So how do we get back to that feeling of connection and acceptance, at a time when it’s a challenge to see anything but our differences?

I read a post yesterday by grad Jackie Endres, and felt it was the perfect way to use our Pathways tools to move past the division, and get to a place where we can truly say “I love you, and I accept you, even though I don’t understand you.” I asked her if I could share her words with the Pathways community, and she said yes. Here is what she had to say:

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“I have always sat in the middle of a family politically-divided. Now perhaps we are a nation divided. It might seem a difficult place to be. But my family can love, respect, grow, have fun, achieve dreams despite our differences in beliefs. What is different and unique about my family? Nothing. We have men, women, LGBTQ. My extended family has immigrants, people of different races and religions, wealth statuses and job types, disabilities and mental illness. We are a microcosm of this nation. So how can we find love?

The only path forward in my past is now, still, the only path forward: Loving curiosity.

Just because somebody represents something to me (freedom or bigotry, progress or fear) it doesn’t ever mean that it represents the same thing to the other person.

Do me a favor. Define love. Now, ask somebody you love to define love. Did you come up with the same answer? Maybe to you, love means physical affection, honesty, and support. Maybe to someone else it means vulnerability, playfulness, and loyalty. How do you know how to love someone else if you don’t ask, “What does love mean for you?”

This same discussion needs to happen now. Not one that promotes: You voted for Trump so you hate women, or You voted for Hillary so you support corruption and deceit. We must ask–Why did you vote for _________? To you, what is important? What kind of country do you want to live in? What matters to you? What does love mean for you?

You may want someone’s actions to equal what you would mean if you were to take the same actions. But they don’t. You have to find out what they mean. Maybe there is more intersection than we freely admit. It is so easy to make someone who is different an unreal other. It helps us to label them, judge them, feel safe and superior that we are not like them. But it doesn’t help us to love them and feel love in return. It doesn’t help us to move forward in unity and achieve shared success. We have always had that chance to use our curiosity to understand one another. But now, more than ever, people are willing to talk and respond to curiosity. Are you willing to listen? Drop the us vs. them rhetoric. Start with the US rhetoric. Ask questions so you can find the common ground. Build uncommon relationships from it. Get contagious and spread the curiosity and the acceptance. Share your side of the story. Be willing to get the other side of the story without your lens of prejudice (I mean that in the full meaning of “preconceived opinion”). Come from true love, always, not fear.

This world is not doomed. We just have a lot to learn from each other. Better start studying.”

Your Habits: Helpful or Harmful?

Have you ever stopped to really think about why you have what you have in your life? Think about it! Life isn’t random, and there are no accidents, so how come there are things working for you in life, and also things that aren’t?

Well, if you looked really closely at yourself you would see that most things that you have in life are a result of habits that you have adopted. Each of us has daily habits that support our success and ones that don’t. For instance, if you are physically fit, it’s because you have a habit of exercising and eating right. You can’t get physically fit by doing those things once in a while; you have to develop a consistent routine.

It’s the same with everything in life. If you have a distant marriage, look at the things you may have gotten into a routine of doing with your spouse: withholding feelings, not holding them accountable, not speaking up, sweeping issues under the carpet, yelling at them, withholding love, etc. If you have money struggles, look at the patterns around your handling of money: overspending, settling for jobs that don’t pay what you deserve, not saving, being unaware, etc. It’s easy to slip into unsupportive patterns. And before we know it, we are paying the price of those routines. It doesn’t happen overnight, but just like not taking care of our physical body after a few months, we start to see how we’ve let ourselves go.

That is why the kind of work that gets done in our seminars is so beneficial. It’s a chance to open our eyes to the patterns of behavior that hinder us, so that we can change those and start to experience more of what we want in our lives.

Your assignment this month is to take a look at some of your habits. Look at where your life is working and see what you do on a daily basis that makes it so. Keep that up! Also look at where your life is not working and identify what it is you’ve gotten into a habit of that makes that so! In those areas, change one of those habits into something that works. As always, have fun with this, and make sure to celebrate your successes!

Looking Back: Ginger Adams

Who would ever think that I, a woman who once could not look into another’s eyes, sit in a chair where my body may touch a stranger, or who had no words to express her deepest fears, hopes and dreams, would be where I am today. When my Pathways journey began I was a 47 year old woman who was in the processes of ending a 25 year marriage. I was broken to say the least, tormented by thoughts of doom and gloom and paralyzed to move forward.

VERY reluctantly I attended Basic In February of 2007 and began my Pathways journey. Immediately after Basic I attended Advanced and then straight to Leadership. The woman who stepped into the rooms in February of 2007 was left behind with all of her baggage as I stepped out of Leadership later that year. My story of transformation is a beautiful one. It has a million twists and turns, tears and tribulations leading to who I find myself to be today. Without the gentle (I say this with tongue in cheek) love of Sue and the teams that led my seminars I could have never achieved the personal, professional or spiritual success I cherish today. The broken woman I thought I was, was just the unraveling of the protective cocoon I had placed myself in. The essence I have found below those layers is miraculous to say the very least. I have become in tuned with my inner voice which has led me to where I find myself today.

Currently I own a healthcare practice where I am a Certified Reconnective Healing Foundational Practitioner and Reconnection Certified Practitioner. While facilitating session, I remain in awe as I introduce the light and information of the Reconnective Healing Energies to my clients. There are no words to describe the joy that it brings me when facilitating these sessions. I stand today in immense love and gratitude for Sue and the Pathways Seminars for being an instrumental part of my life’s journey to a place of healing for myself and now for others.

Virginia (Ginger) Adams, Grad 2007

www.virginia-adams.com